It's okay not to be okay

how to deal with stress and anxiety
                       Illustration by myself

It's okay not to be okay.


Life can be amazing. We live on a beautiful planet that offers so much but sometimes everyday life can take over and lead to us feeling down and unhappy.

As emotional beings it's only natural that we're not happy 24/7. Life throws stuff at us all the time, and it most certainly doesn't always go to plan. I feel as though a lot of people believe they're expected to just 'get on with it' and that admitting you're not okay is a sign of weakness, but it really isn't. Ignoring our feelings and letting them build up can cause them to resurface in other ways, such as a lack of motivation or feeling unproductive.

It's unfortunate that we live in a society that doesn't really like to deal with anything except positivity and happiness. This can make us feel lonely when we feel anything but that, almost as if we're doing something wrong. We can feel lonely in world full of people, in a room surrounded by people. It's a loneliness from deep inside. A part of us that's never really touched because we're too afraid to talk about what matters. We live in a society that is so used to filtering out the bad stuff, putting on a smile and saying "I'm fine". We've been made to believe this is what we have to do to live a happy, easy breezy life. But isn't this just faking it?. We think pushing all the bad stuff out of our minds, ignoring pain, ignoring sadness will lead to happiness. But when we're feeling shitty no amount of positive Pinterest quotes are going to help.

We like to drown out our issues with the sugar coated lives of celebrities. We'd rather obsess over what Kylie Jenner puts on her lips than talk about how we are feeling or speak about real issues. This can lead to us feeling like we're living an unfulfilled life, one where we're just 'getting by'. It's become the norm to give off this visage of a perfect life. So much so, we'd rather put more energy into appearing to live perfectly happy lives than actually living a happy life.


Addressing our issues and overcoming them isn't always the easiest option.


However, through acceptance we can be happy. Speaking about our issues, addressing them and understanding them will lead to clarity rather than a built up parasite of repressed feelings. Through accepting it we can learn to face it, move on from it and grow because of it.

It's a lot stronger to confront our issues rather than shut them out. It's healthier to be completely ourselves instead of repressing certain feelings and emotions. In life we're not really taught how to deal with our emotions,  especially difficult ones. Instead we are made to believe it's normal to drown them out which makes it so easy to push that self destruction button. We can end up turning to external things for help that we should really be avoiding, but we can overcome that. The worst thing is, a lot of people go through times were they're not feeling okay, but don't talk about it and instead just ignore it.

It's okay not to be okay. If you're feeling rubbish turn to a friend, partner or your family and just speak to them. If you'd rather deal with things on your own then write your thoughts and feelings down. This can really help in clearing up your mind and helping you understand what it is that you're feeling and how you can work through it. Once you accept it's okay not to be okay, you might feel just a little bit more okay.

Have a read of my Becoming you post for some more mediocre life advice from myself.

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