Why I won't say I love myself

Loving yourself

 Just like a butterfly, we can grow and transform ourselves into something more beautiful than before.

"Love yourself"

Something most certainly, easier said than done. I'm sure you've noticed the vast amount of content lately aimed at loving yourself. From articles to Youtube videos, blogposts and Instagram pictures, loving yourself has become sort of a movement and what I'd describe as a "trendy issue".

I think it's amazing that this is an issue being more and more talked about and something people are trying to change but through social media, the easiness of sharing these issues can sometimes degrade the issue itself. It's easy to appear as though we are facing it when really we're just masking the real problem.

I keep seeing people confessing that they've learnt to love themselves. They have learnt to accept everything that they are, and love it. Sometimes these words feel empty to me, that the words they're saying are just that, words. I keep getting told to "love myself" and the importance of it and the happiness it can bring me. I'm being told to accept who I am, to accept what I don't like and just learn to love it. But then aren't I just covering the issue up and kidding myself? I don't believe loving yourself is something that you should have to learn or try hard to do. I think it's something that will come naturally once you start changing the things that you don't like into something that you do.

Having confidence and truly loving yourself is amazing. It's a huge achievement to fully accept who you are, especially in today's society.

However, I almost feel pressured into having to accept all the things I don't like about myself. In a previous post 'Becoming you' I wrote all about finding yourself and the importance of change in order to develop into the person you want to be and will love. I'd rather work towards self improvement than mask my issues with a couple of empowering quotes and a "confident" Instagram selfie. Life is about discovery. I don't want to settle and force myself into being happy with who I am right now. I want to grow and expand as a person, I want to be healthier for both my mind and body. I want to actually be able to mean it when I say "I love myself" and not just say the words to create this visage of positivity and self love, when deep down I know it's not true. I will work towards becoming the type of person I want to be, and that I will love.

One day I hope to say "I love myself" and truly mean every word. But right now I don't, so I'm not going to say it.

What I will say is I'm taking steps to better myself and steps towards being a happier person. I'm learning to accept who I am. I'm addressing my flaws and learning to love them, knowing what I'm good at and loving that more, more importantly knowing what I want to change and doing it.

It's a journey. I don't want to jump on the self love bandwagon and preach that I love myself. I don't want to speak words, I want to mean them. This is a journey for myself and I know it will take time. I want to truly come to love myself, and that's why I won't say I love myself.

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  1. Ahhh I hope my comment came though! xD xx

  2. I did write a comment but I think somehow, it didn't make it xD I wanted to let you know that I loved this article and can really relate, I feel like self acceptance means knowing that I still have room to evolve and grow, I am surprising myself as I go :D can't wait to read more and your blog is lovely! xx

    elizabeth ♡ ”Ice Cream” whispers Clara | (lets follow each other on bloglovin or instagram)

  3. I really love your take on this "love yourself" movement. I 100% agree that we shouldn't just accept our flaws and do nothing about them, but instead work at them until we've become a person we can truly embrace and love. Otherwise they're just empty words that don't really mean anything. Improvement and change is something to be proud of, not something to shy away from.



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